Comments on: American Muslims, marriage and race

By: Um Omar

Um Omar — Fri, 15 Dec 2006 15:15:13 +0000

Where it comes to the question of white reverts marrying non-whites, in my case it was purely supply and demand. Not one revert brother was in the available pool at the time I was searching, all the brothers were Arab. I would have considered an American revert, but there were none available. Alhamdulillah my kids are all more ‘tan’ than myself, but here in Jordan they are considered WHITE. And believe me I am scared for the time they come of marriage age—WHITE/baida is highly sought after here.

By: Southern Muslimah

Southern Muslimah — Thu, 23 Nov 2006 07:13:12 +0000

I’m from the South. Full of black folks. My niece and nephew live in Whitebread, Minnesota. They honestly do not see many African Americans. So once when they were flying to AL for a visit, they had to pass through the Nashville, TN airport. They were taken aback by all of the ‘darker’ people they saw, and my niece said, “Why don’t we see any black people where we live?” So my nephew tried to comfort his sister and said, “Don’t worry, we’re about to go to Aunt [southern Muslimah's] house, where you can see your cousins for a whole week!”

My kids are 1/2 super white and 1/2 Palestinian. Har har har.

By: Bin Gregory

Bin Gregory — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 14:54:52 +0000

Islam transcends race. It should do so everywhere, not just America eh?

For sure. And I know what you’re getting at. Islam = What Malays Do = Islam is an attitude that is not uncommon, to the detriment of us all.

By: Jordan

Jordan — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 09:53:07 +0000

I won’t deny that at least a little bit of why I chose my wife had something to do with a physical attraction based on my general preference for girls who are…uh, not white. But that’s just a small part of a really big picture involving a lot more than mere physical attraction and preference or whatever. And I don’t think my preference would have anything to do with wanting to inject some colour into the family tree. I guess in the end it all boiled down to who I felt right with.

As for children, it appears the Malay side of the family really want our son to look like a mat salleh, but for me it doesn’t really matter. He could be as white as snow or as black as the ace of spades, either way is fine with me. Although…I do hope he tans a little easier than his daddy.

In both cases, for me religion and questions about preference for one shade of skin over another simply don’t go together because, like you said, Islam transcends race. It should do so everywhere, not just America eh?

By: Nizar

Nizar — Thu, 16 Nov 2006 07:35:55 +0000

Which tariqat r u in?